You’ve worked for decades to make this happen, to finally live life on your terms. No more commutes or alarms. Just slow mornings, the light through old shutters, a coffee, and the sound of church bells somewhere in the distance.
It’s beautiful. But as many soon discover, it’s also terrifying.
Because when your dream starts to get real, when the house is sold, the euros are in your account, and your flights are booked, every decision suddenly feels enormous.
That’s when the first doubts creep in: Am I doing this right? What if I’m missing something? What will people back home think if this doesn’t go to plan?
The truth is, every move to France is emotional before it’s logistical. And there are three traps that can quietly turn that dream into stress if you’re not prepared.
Let’s break them down, and talk about how to sidestep each one.
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Trap 1: The trust cliff
Money is often the first big test. You’ve sold your home, transferred your savings, and suddenly you’re watching exchange rates like your life depends on them.
You tell yourself you’ll convert your funds when the time is right, waiting for that perfect moment when the euro or pound moves in your favour.
The problem? The “perfect moment” rarely comes.
One couple we worked with were in exactly this situation. The husband wanted to wait for a big Bank of England announcement, convinced rates would swing in his favour. His wife, exhausted by the stress, just wanted to get on with their move.
The solution was simple, split the difference. Half before, half after. He got to test his theory. She got to sleep.
That small compromise gave them back something far more valuable than a slightly better rate: a sense of control.
Because the market’s job is to move. Your job is to make sure it doesn’t move you.
Ibanista Tip: When transferring money to France, focus on protecting your budget and peace of mind, not chasing the ideal rate. Convert funds in stages or lock in rates early, your goal is to start your new life calmly, not stressed about markets.
Trap 2: The moonshot fallacy
When moving to France, one of the biggest relocation mistakes is believing you must get everything right in year one, the perfect village, the ideal home, the flawless start. It’s what we call the moonshot fallacy, and it’s one of the most common expat pitfalls.
Take the couple who held out for their dream home on the Côte d’Azur. It was stunning, sea views, morning swims, croissants on the terrace. But waiting for perfection meant passing on plenty of good enough options. Their visa stalled. Their flights were delayed. The entire plan wobbled.
That’s what the moonshot fallacy does, it makes your dream fragile.
Because France doesn’t reward the perfect movers. It rewards the patient ones.
Your first year isn’t a test to pass; it’s a foundation to build on. Rent before you buy. Explore. Adjust. Let France show you who she is, and who you are when you’re here.
Ibanista Tip: For your first year living in France, think exploration, not perfection. Rent first, visit regions, and let the experience shape you. The best relocations are the ones that evolve slowly, not the ones rushed to prove success.
Trap 3: The pressure to appear certain
Another common expat mistake when relocating to France is feeling like you must appear 100% certain after taking the leap, even when you’re still finding your footing. That pressure to “look confident” can lead to over-committing financially or emotionally.
You’ve gone all in. Everyone back home thinks you’re brave (or mad). And now you feel like you have to prove it was the right decision, every single day.
One client told us, “Everyone thinks I’ve lost it, moving here. I can’t afford to sound unsure”. He wasn’t lacking confidence; he was trying to perform it.
But here’s the thing, moving to France isn’t a performance. It’s a transition.
Confidence doesn’t mean pretending you’ve figured it all out. It means being intentional. Saying, “I’ve chosen this, and I’ll navigate it carefully”.
Ibanista Tip: Confidence isn’t pretending you have it all figured out. It’s choosing intentionally, adjusting calmly, and remembering that moving to France is a journey, not a performance.
Bringing it all together
If you can avoid these three traps, the money mistake, the perfection trap, and the confidence pressure, your move will unfold with clarity and calm.
- Don’t let the market hold you hostage. Protect your peace of mind, not just your rate.
- Stop chasing perfection. The best first year is an honest one, not a flawless one.
- Don’t mistake confidence for control. You don’t need to convince anyone, just yourself.
Because the real magic of living in France doesn’t come from a perfect plan. It comes from patience, presence, and perspective.
As Ben often says: “Try and give France space, and she’ll give you peace. Take the pressure off, and she’ll give you perspective.”
Your move to France isn’t a moonshot, it’s a long, steady sunrise.
Final notes
Moving abroad is never just a financial decision; it’s an emotional one. And that’s exactly why it’s worth preparing properly, for your money, your mindset, and your first months in France.
If you can slow down, make grounded decisions, and stay flexible, you’ll experience what every expat hopes for: not just living in France, but belonging here.
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